You know that voice, the one that says things like “I’m not good enough” or “I’m not smart enough”? Whether we realize it or not, we’re creating a unique story in our minds on a daily basis. Societal pressures, social media, and the over-the-top expectations we put on ourselves have created an environment where negative self-talk flourishes. So much of our anxiety and self-doubt stems from fictional stories based on assumptions and speculation. According to Brene Brown, “The most dangerous stories we make up are the narratives that diminish our inherent worthiness.” The stories we hold on to shape our lives and I want to show you how your stories can work for you!
Let’s say you have anxiety about a company party next week. The story you tell yourself is, “Nobody at work likes me”. Ask yourself, is that a fact? The answer is very likely, no. Separating the story from the facts is the quickest way to eliminate thoughts that aren’t serving you. Your thinking is creating your feelings, not the circumstance (work party). Creating a new thought related to your circumstance demonstrates how neutral the facts actually are.
In this case, the neutral fact is the company party. Now replace the negative thought with a positive one like, “my coworkers like me”.
Catching yourself in this thought trap takes practice so be mindful of the stories you’re telling yourself and ask how true they really are. Asking yourself these questions allows you to stop holding on to stories that don’t serve you and create positive ones. It’s like a muscle, the more you work on it, the bigger it gets. Do I still have moments of not feeling good enough? Of course, but thanks to the mind management skills I’ve learned, I know how to replace them using the model.
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